As a woman, I get a lot of flack for my view on fatherhood and abortion issues. As a woman, I’m expected to go along with the heard philosophy of “it’s a woman’s body so it’s her choice alone.” No, sorry. I can’t go along with that one.
Women DO have a choice. They have a choice whether or not to have sex with someone KNOWING there is a chance they can become pregnant, with out without contraception. For the record, rape, incest, and a direct threat to the mother’s health are obvious exceptions to my views. Many women in today’s society believe that abortion is merely another birth control option. Why? Because sex ed in public schools teaches them that. They give girls condoms and if they end up pregnant anyway, abortion is always discussed as an option. After all, why should she inconvenience herself with something as trivial as a new life. Ignore the thousands of childless families who would give anything on earth to raise that child she doesn’t want. Biologically, when a sperm and an egg combine and start to divide, you have a life form. A HUMAN life form. It’s not an amoeba and it’s not a chimpanzee. It’s a human child whether you admit to that or not.
This is the point where the double standard kicks in. A woman has an unconditional right to have an abortion, whether she’s being vain, wants to get even with the father or is trying to hide the fact that she is irresponsible. So, off she goes to the clinic and the poor father has zero say in the matter. It’s her body and she can do with it what she wants. No, sorry. I don’t agree with that. Whether you see it as a baby or a sack of cells, it is not hers exclusively. It took two people to create that life, it should take two people to destroy it. If a father is willing to take complete control of the child and raise it on his own, he should have the legal recourse to take her to court and stop her from getting an abortion. There of course needs to be the legal binding contract that he will pay for the child and after it’s born assume all responsibility for it.
I have seen time and time again the following scenario. A woman gets pregnant and decides she wants to have the baby. The father decides otherwise and makes his feelings known. She has the child, sues him for child support AND WINS. Where is HIS right not to be a parent? Why can the woman number one get an abortion over the father’s objections yet the woman in number two can force the father to pay support for a child he never wanted?
The fathers in the country need unite and take a stand against this unfair double standard. Either fathers get a say in the decision to have an abortion or they’re not responsible for child support. No more having it both ways. For that matter, more women should take a stand. How would you like to face your brother or cousin or nephew who is heartbroken because a few days after the woman in his life told him she was pregnant she told him she was having an abortion and there was nothing he could do to stop it. How would you feel if you’re a man in your family didn’t want children but was thrown in jail for not paying support on a child he never wanted?
The system needs to change to accommodate BOTH parents. Procedures need be implemented to protect the rights of men who want to be fathers as well as protecting women from men who merely are trying to make their lives miserable by taking advantage of the situation. Legal procedures can establish the future of the child, and make sure that the fathers keep their words. The current system can not go on unchecked. It might be a woman’s body, but when she willingly has sex with a man, she already made her choice.
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